Three Worlds

It starts early.

Girls are told: be polite, smile, don’t run, don’t get dirty, don’t scream. They are taught to be pretty, gentle, sweet. Princesses. In pink dresses, shiny shoes, and headbands. They’re supposed to sit quietly, be nice, and please others.

Boys are told: be tough, don’t cry, don’t be a girl, fight, lead, win. If you fall – get up, don’t whine. Be strong. Be a man.

And so two worlds are formed.

One learns she must be pretty and wait for someone to love her. The other learns he must be strong and earn everything himself. One learns to care about what others think. The other learns that others’ opinions are just obstacles. One tries not to hurt. The other tries not to be hurt.

And as if that wasn’t enough, we have a third world – stress-free parenting.
Kids who are allowed everything. Who mustn’t be told “no,” because “trauma,” “emotions,” “autonomy.” Then you end up with a four-year-old spitting at his mother, a ten-year-old girl telling her father to “shut up,” and a teenager who knows no limits. Because they never had any. And that child enters adulthood like a runaway tank with no steering.

In all this, one thing is lost – THE ROLE OF THE FATHER.

A father is not a wallet. Not a background character. Not someone who’s supposed to just “help” with raising a child.
Statistics are clear – single fathers raise children better than single mothers. Not because they’re better, but because they provide different values.
Stricter. Clearer. More directional.

And very often, the problem is not the absence of a father – but the fact that he’s stripped of his role.
A man wants to react because his daughter starts throwing things at him?
The mother steps in and says: Leave her alone, she’s sensitive, don’t make a scene.
And in that moment, she takes away his fatherhood.
Instead of a united front – chaos.
Children quickly sense who holds the power.
And trust me – it’s not the one with more sense.

The absence of a father, the lack of a masculine role model, leads to things no one wants to say out loud.
Girls without fathers – or with absent fathers – fall more often into the trap of validation through their bodies.
More often they end up selling themselves on OnlyFans.
More often they become easy targets for men who know how to sweet-talk for a week and squeeze them dry after that.
You’ve seen the reels? Those girls saying:
My dad showed me I’m valuable. That he loves me. That’s why I don’t need to look for it in other men’s eyes.
That’s the difference. A fundamental one.

Now something brutal.
Because truth hurts.

A 30-year-old woman with two kids saying:
I only aim for high-value men. He must have this, and that, and that. If not, he has no chance.

Question: who are you to demand?
You think those men are looking for women like you?
No. They have options. You – don’t.
That’s not hate. That’s reality.
Brutal, but true.

We’re not equal in resources.
But we can be equal in values.
And that leads us to the punchline:

If you want your daughter to know her worth – show her love.
Not as a reward.
Not for something.
Simply: for being.

But love isn’t “do whatever you want.”
Love is also boundaries. Consequences. Teaching.
It’s not about girls growing up thinking: I’m a princess, everyone must serve me.
It’s about growing up thinking: I know my worth and won’t let anyone crush me.

Same goes for boys.
They don’t have to be tough all the time.
They have to be present. And know who they are.

Because if our kids don’t get these values from us –
they’ll get them from TikTok, Instagram, and some random dude outside the store.