Why do some men act like the woman doesn’t exist after sex

Before sex, they act like princes. They text you every day. Sweet messages, compliments, effort. They show interest in you, ask about your childhood, your plans, your exes, your dreams. They make it seem like they care about something more.

And then sex happens.

And suddenly — they vanish. Like they got what they wanted and suddenly forgot you ever existed. They don’t reply right away. Their messages are cold. Meetings? “We’ll see.” As if you suddenly became invisible.

Because for many men, sex isn’t intimacy. It’s a game. It’s a challenge. It’s a test — “can I get her into bed?” And once they succeed, they lose interest — because the goal has been reached.

The problem is: when he ends the game, that’s when you start to feel.

It also comes from the fact that men and women often treat sex completely differently. For many women, sex is emotional closeness. It’s something that builds a bond. For men? Often, it’s just physical release. That’s why they say a woman’s betrayal hurts more — because it usually isn’t random. It’s the result of a deeper process: emotional detachment from her partner, letting go of the connection. And a man’s betrayal? Sometimes mindless, purely physical, without involvement. It’s not an excuse — it’s a difference. A difference that makes some men feel nothing after sex, and women — feel everything.

And that’s exactly why what for him was the end, for her is often the beginning of emotional chaos.

It’s not that sex “changes the woman.” It’s that some men are masters of acting — just to get into your panties. Because for them, sex is the reward. And you — are the prize in their little ego game.

And then?

Then they look for a new board to play on.

Because they didn’t want you. They wanted to score.

And if you’re asking yourself “did I do something wrong?” — the answer is: no. You didn’t change after sex. His mask just wasn’t needed anymore.

And that’s the whole point.

He wasn’t in love. He wasn’t committed. He just wanted to win — and moved on.